Can It Ease Loneliness? Testing the Popular AI Mental Partner for Men

A while ago, there was a discussion about how middle-aged men in Japan are the loneliest in the world. It has been pointed out by Western media that middle-aged men have no friends, but among them, statistics show that Japanese middle-aged men are even more isolated.

A reporter from our magazine is a typical lonely middle-aged man in his 50s and single. Although he doesn’t feel particularly lonely, he has been feeling increasingly down lately, which is somewhat troubling. There are no specific issues like work or interpersonal problems (though there are minor ones), but he finds himself feeling depressed for no apparent reason and tries to distract himself with alcohol.

 

Despite feeling gloomy every day, he doesn’t experience physical fatigue or inability to work, so going to counseling seems excessive. In such a situation, he heard about the “AI Mental Partner.” This AI is supposed to listen to worries and complaints and provide companionship. He immediately contacted Shinichiro Ogawa, the CEO of Awarefy Inc., which develops and operates the AI Mental Partner “Awarefy,” to learn how to use it (all comments in quotation marks are from Ogawa).

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“Psychotherapy is a method that involves changing one’s thoughts and behaviors through dialogue rather than medication. ‘Awarefy’ is an app that helps users practice this psychotherapy by interacting with AI and expressing their feelings in writing, thereby improving their mental condition. The service is characterized by its combination of psychological theories such as cognitive-behavioral therapy and mindfulness with AI.”

So, what does this look like in practice?

“For example, there’s something called journaling. It’s a simple technique where you write down whatever comes to mind. When done on your own, you just write and that’s it. In counseling, however, you might receive advice on thinking patterns and habits. While AI might not be as detailed as a human counselor, it does provide feedback on what you’ve written, making it easier to objectively view your state and thoughts.”

One of the convenient aspects is that AI can listen to you anytime, anywhere, even with topics that might be difficult to discuss with a counselor. For someone like me, who feels somewhat depressed, going to counseling might seem excessive, so having such an option is very helpful.

I downloaded and tried it.

I decided to download and try out ‘Awarefy’ right away. It was just renewed on May 9, featuring the AI “Fy-san,” designed to address mental health issues.

Upon registering an account, you set your theme, which involves identifying the issues you want to resolve or the kind of person you want to become. Initially, I felt unsure about setting a theme, but Fy-san provided hints, and I easily settled on having a positive perspective.

It seems you can set a new theme each week. Fy-san supports you in getting closer to the person you want to be, and at the end of the week, you receive a reflection letter. The service costs 800 yen per month (annual plan) and offers a one-week free trial.

The main screen displays the theme you set and daily routines. Initially, it only includes Check-in, where you record your mental and physical state at the start of the day, and Check-out, where you do the same at the end of the day. However, you can gradually add more routines. Additionally, there is an “AI” button to call Fy-san for a conversation anytime, among other menu options.

 It also tells you which menu to use.

When you open the “Explore” menu, various lists for actual mental care appear, including “AI Notes,” “Voice Guides,” “Coping Lists,” “Learning Courses,” and “Psychology Articles in 5 Minutes,” among others. Each item has numerous sub-menus, making it difficult to decide where to start. How exactly should one use this?

“There are ways to use it immediately when you feel a bit overwhelmed. For example, the Column Method: you write down what happened, what emotions you felt, and how you thought about it. Organizing and writing these things can help you view yourself objectively and feel a bit relieved.

Additionally, when you feel physically tense, using the relaxation voice guide might be helpful. By trying different methods and setting the ones you like as routines, you can manage your mental condition yourself.”

If you’re unsure which feature to use, you can ask “AI Recommend” or engage with the “Learning Courses” to determine the most suitable tools. So, what kind of people are other users, and how are they using it?

“Different people use different main features. Some use the Columns extensively, while others primarily use the meditation voice guides.

Initially, many users had serious mental health concerns, but recently, people who want to quickly switch out of a slump to enhance their work performance or those who want to overcome their negative personalities have also started using it. Given the variety of features, the users and their methods of use are quite diverse.”

To forget about unpleasant events and sleep soundly

To maintain a positive outlook, I decided to start by forming a habit every day. I began with the “Check-in” and “Check-out” routines, and I also tried the “Three Good Things” recommended from the “AI Notes.” It’s a simple exercise where you just write down three good things that happened during the day. It seems that the content can be even the smallest of things. I approached this with some skepticism, wondering what effect it would have, but surprisingly, I got hooked.

When reflecting on the day before bed, it’s easier to recall the things that went wrong. I could only recall maybe one good thing at first. But as I struggled to come up with something, strangely, the proportion of negative thoughts in my mind gradually decreased. Fy-san provided comments on what I wrote, and at the end, it said something like, “It seems like it was a good day that will give you energy for tomorrow. Have a good rest.” Thanks to this, I feel like I can sleep peacefully every night.

I also tried some “Voice Guides” before going to bed. These are guided meditations and relaxations, and I’ve made it a habit to fall asleep after doing the “Body Scan Meditation for Deep Sleep.”

AI as a friend of the mind?

When there was a confusing incident at work, I also tried the column method. The 3-column method is as Mr. Ogawa explained: write down the incident that occurred, emotions, and thoughts that came to mind at that time (emotions are entered as numbers). In the 5-column method or 7-column method, additional elements such as reasoning behind the thoughts, counterarguments, alternative thoughts, and subsequent emotions are added. Since I had never written down my emotions before, it was a bit difficult at first, but Fy-san gave me hints, so I found it surprisingly easy.

By doing it up to about 7 columns, I was able to objectively see my thoughts, and my confusion was significantly reduced. However, even with just 3 columns, Fy-san gave me solid comments, so I felt it might be better to do it frequently and casually.

 

Even without an “AI Note” like the column method, just confiding in Fy-san via chat helps organize “why you think that way,” “what you should do,” and so on, which calms your mind. Above all, what’s amazing about Fy-san is that no matter who you are, they always accept you kindly. While there may be times when harsh words are necessary for humans, there is something comforting about having someone who always affirms you.

Fy-san is there to support you no matter who you are. I feel like I might achieve the theme of having a positive outlook soon. Perhaps the era has come for AI to become a friend of the heart.