Why Women Harassing Men is Rapidly Increasing in Kabukicho

On June 1, Johnny Depp won a lawsuit against his ex-wife Amber Heard. The case was awarded $15 million and Amber was ordered to pay $15 million to Depp.

In Kabukicho, domestic violence (DV) has been a hot topic. There have always been stories of female clients assaulting their male host, but what we hear more often these days is DV/moraharassment from women to men.

The girls are in control, or rather, the girls who are making money are the strong ones. Kabukicho is a town where earning money is what matters.

Hana (pseudonym, 27) has been playing in Kabukicho for many years. Hana’s friend says that she keeps the hosts under her control with money.

She says, “I have a friend who is dating an unsuccessful host. She’s a popular soap opera star, and she supports most of the host’s income. So when they fight, she’s very abusive. She says things like, ‘You’re a piece of trash who wouldn’t be worth a penny if it weren’t for me. Sometimes she gets drunk and she will hit him. I didn’t know how to respond when she showed me a picture of her boyfriend covered in blood while laughing, saying, ‘I hit him so hard he bled a lot. Not only those friends, but many hosts endure their partner’s verbal abuse and violence for the sake of money.”

DV/molestation is not only the case against hosts. Some papa-girls seem to repeat extreme moral harassment against their own sugar-daddy. One of the papa-katsu-girls, Misa (pseudonym, 19), said,

“My sugar-daddy told me that a couple of years ago, he was harassed by a girl he had been seeing for a long time. My sugar-daddy was a very timid  guy who would do as he was told when he was yelled at. Every time he’s with her, she would yell things like, ‘You’re useless,’ or ‘You’re disgusting,’ and it was driving him mentally crazy.”

The man could no longer stand the repeated verbal abuse and decided to break up with her. Then, he said, the harassment intensified.

“He said, ‘She would snapped at me and will say things like: ‘Is that how you want to get rid of me? She was so angry with me. He couldn’t break up with her easily and was tormented by the harassment for a long time, until he ended up going to a psychiatrist. The girl got tired of it eventually and we managed to break up,’ but he still seems to be in pain when he talks about it. There are quite a few sugar-babies like that girl, who enjoy manipulating and bullying the old man. It’s like they need to dominate their partner to feel good about themselves. I understand that it is hard to spend time with an old man, but as long as you are getting paid, it is a business, and you should enjoy the company of your partner.

Is there anything sadder than to be tormented by moral harassers in one’s sugar-daddy’s life, which one started in order to be healed by a young woman? In most cases, however, the perpetrators of the harassment are not at all offended, saying, “The creepy old man deserves to be treated badly.”

Listening to the earnest voices of these male victims, one wonders if this is a problem that can be put to rest by saying, “Well, it’s Kabukicho.”

Sasaki Chihuahua

Born in Tokyo in 2000.
After attending an integrated school in Tokyo from elementary school to high school, he went on to Keio University.
He has been going to Kabukicho since he was 15 years old and has a wide range of personal connections.
At university, he is studying the sociology of downtown areas including Kabukicho.
His book, ” Pien” to shakai” (“The Disease of ‘Pien’: Consumption and Approval of the SNS Generation”) is now on sale.