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<p><strong> Second partners&#8221; is a popular term for married couples on matchmaking apps. The idea is to have a romantic relationship, but not a physical one. In Part I, &#8220;Love but No Physical Relationship,&#8221; we spoke with men who currently have a second partner and women who are looking for a second partner.</strong></p>
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<p><a href="https://friday.kodansha.co.jp/article/336407"><strong> Part 1: &#8220;Love but No Physical Relationships&#8221;-Is the Proliferation of &#8220;Second Partners&#8221; on Married Persons Apps an Adulterous Affair or Just Before?</strong></a></p>
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<h3> The majority of married women are &#8220;in a physical relationship&#8221; on apps for married couples</h3>
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<p> While there are those who are looking for a &#8220;second partner&#8221; as defined by the above two, they seem to be in the minority among app users. The opinions of the majority are as follows. First, from the men,</p>
<p><strong> If you are really looking for a pure friend, you can use social networking services such as X (formerly Twitter) and Instagram nowadays, so why don&#8217;t you just look for someone on those? It&#8217;s not worth it to go to the trouble of paying to use a matching app.</strong></p>
<p> The women, on the other hand, were also surprisingly positive about the idea. On the other hand, surprisingly few women are in the positive camp.</p>
<p><strong> The more we get to know each other, the more we want to touch each other. You can&#8217;t say &#8216;I&#8217;ll never have a physical relationship with you.</strong></p>
<p><strong> I think it&#8217;s just a meal until you fall in love, but in the end you enjoy the process because you know it&#8217;s going to happen.</strong></p>
<p><strong> There are plenty of regular friends out there, so I don&#8217;t see the point of going to the trouble of using an app to meet someone without a physical relationship.</strong></p>
<p> These opinions were more harsh than those of the men.</p>
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<p> Married people who use matching apps must feel very guilty about their spouses. Neither of the two men mentioned above has told their spouses that they are looking for a &#8220;second partner,&#8221; nor do they intend to do so in the future. Even if they do not have a physical relationship, it is still difficult to tell their spouses, and if the existence of a &#8220;second partner&#8221; were to be discovered, their spouses would definitely think they were having an &#8220;affair&#8221; involving physical relations. If I may say so, I have not been unfaithful, so I may be able to avoid the risk of a serious incident.</p>
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<p> The term &#8220;second partner&#8221; is still new. The definition of the term is not well understood, and some women seem to have a somewhat distorted view of the term. One man told us that a woman said to him, &#8220;I want a second partner.</p>
<p><strong> I recently had an exchange with a woman who said she wanted a second partner and wanted to connect with someone from the heart. When I asked her when she feels connected to me from the heart, she said, &#8216;I feel it when he gives me presents on my birthday, Christmas, or anniversary, takes me out to dinner somewhere I wouldn&#8217;t normally go, or surprises me with something.</strong></p>
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<p> This makes it sound like they want to be connected not by &#8220;heart&#8221; but by &#8220;money. This type of &#8220;thank-you&#8221; girl inevitably appears on matching apps. One man in his 60s received a message like this.</p>
<p><strong> When we meet, I would like to receive your travel expenses as a thank-you.</strong></p>
<p><strong> I have a lot of bills to pay this month.</strong></p>
<p><strong> If I could be your girlfriend, I would like a gift and some spending money.</strong></p>
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<p> The danger that the common problem of older men not wanting to have physical relations with older men, and then taking it as a favor, which is common on existing matching and daddy dating apps, will increase in the future on married men-only apps as well.</p>
<p> Second Partner is still in the minority in the matching app world, where the majority of users are &#8220;physically involved,&#8221; and if you choose the right partner, you may be able to find &#8220;emotional healing. However, it seems that the public&#8217;s evaluation is not much different from that of &#8220;adultery.</p>


 Second partners" is a common term heard on married people-only matching apps. They seem to be enjoying "a lover's relationship without physical relations," but there are some people who cast a cold eye on them even within the same app. ......

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