<p>＜Among them, there has been a sharp increase in the number of consultations from married women who are having a double affair (sita-wife). In the first part of this report, <a href="https://friday.kodansha.co.jp/article/293253">we introduced a</a> consultation from Yuka Ito (pseudonym: 38 years old), married for 13 years, who is having a W-marriage affair, and her <a href="https://friday.kodansha.co.jp/article/293253">advice on how to handle the situation.</a></p>
<p> She is in love with a married man (31 years old) who is a coach for her child&#8217;s lessons and says, &#8220;I want to know how to make him more captivating and techniques to get him hooked!　It&#8217;s been so long since I&#8217;ve been in love. I&#8217;ve already forgotten about it! Ms. Ito was in such a state that she could not stop asking questions.</p>
<p> Here is the advice that Ms. Mizusawa, a very popular ANSWERS consultant, gave to Ms. Ito. &lt;Answers</p>
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<h3> The person on the other end of the phone is &#8220;not a mother of one, but a girl in love.</h3>
<p> The cause of my feeling that this romance was dangerous was the balance of Mr. Ito&#8217;s comments. Most of the questions were all about &#8220;Mr. Ito and him. Barely, at the very end, she asked, &#8220;My husband hasn&#8217;t found out anything at this point, but is there anything I should be careful about?&#8221; I was even asked to confirm that he was in love with her.</p>
<p> I sensed a great danger in that Ms. Ito&#8217;s love life with him and her real life have become quite intermingled in her mind.</p>
<p> Especially for women, when they fall into the love brain, where all they can think about is love, everything in their lives is controlled by that mind. She was in such a state too.</p>
<p> Thinking about the person you love, you can&#8217;t get through dinner, you can&#8217;t get through work, you can get over today&#8217;s pain because you have a date tomorrow&#8230;etc. These may be cheerful situations in a normal relationship, but when it comes to infidelity, the story is different.</p>
<p> At ANSWERS, we don&#8217;t talk about infidelity as if it is a bad thing. If you want to make love more affectionately, we will give you advice on how to behave in a way that will please him.</p>
<p> However, if there was a risk that the relationship would end up in a way that Ms. Ito did not want, I needed to tell her as soon as possible.</p>
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<h3>&#8216;Are you considering possibly divorcing your current husband?&#8221;</h3>
<p> After giving you a rundown of techniques to attract a man&#8217;s feelings, I again asked, &#8220;Are you thinking about divorcing your current husband?&#8221; After we went over the techniques for attracting men&#8217;s feelings, we again asked her if she was considering divorcing her current husband.</p>
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<p> Ms. Ito&#8217;s answer, after thinking about it for a while, was, &#8220;We have children, and that &#8230;&#8230; probably won&#8217;t happen. Only then did I feel &#8220;Ms. Ito as a mother.</p>
<p> Then, the form of this relationship that Ms. Ito really wants is &#8220;I want to enjoy love with him as much as I can. But I don&#8217;t want to destroy my family.</p>
<p> He is younger than Ms. Ito, and I am sure that he wants to enjoy &#8220;romantic time&#8221; with Ms. Ito in a smart, fun, and stimulating way based on mutual understanding of each other&#8217;s situation. And I am sure he thinks that is where they are in agreement with each other.</p>
<p> If Ms. Ito treats him in full-on girl-in-love mode, he will be on his guard, saying, &#8220;This can&#8217;t go any further&#8230;it might be dangerous. There is no doubt that he will gradually back away from you because of his busyness and other reasons.</p>
<p> Also, if you give everything over to romance and immerse yourself in it, it will lead to your husband and possibly even your children feeling Mr. Ito&#8217;s &#8220;heart is not in the right place&#8221; atmosphere.</p>
<p> We are only thorough in our advice to bring the relationship closer to the consultant&#8217;s [desired form], and we have told her that if she continues in this way, there is a possibility that it will end in an ending that Ms. Ito does not want.</p>
<p> If you want to enjoy the affair, don&#8217;t let your coach run away from you in alarm. If you want to protect the family as well, don&#8217;t let anyone get hurt at home &#8211; to make these things happen, you need to maintain a balance between &#8220;girl in love&#8221; and &#8220;good mother&#8221; from an objective perspective.</p>
<p> We will not destroy the family. You can&#8217;t break it&#8221; &#8211; if the answer is such, then adultery must also follow &#8220;dos and don&#8217;ts&#8221;. I guess your love affair with him is also the driving force that keeps you calm at home.</p>
<p> I am sure that you can release a lot of your daily stress by dating him. However, what will happen if you take more and more &#8220;medicine&#8221; and take it frequently and in large quantities?　I am sure that you will get sick.</p>
<p> If you want to have a good relationship with him and protect your family, you need to follow your own dosage and dosage of &#8220;love with him&#8221; or it will all be destroyed. Please be careful about that,&#8221; I told him.</p>
<p> Whenever she is in a state of &#8220;love that overflows and won&#8217;t stop,&#8221; she calls us to tell us about her love story with all her heart, and when she has chewed on her feelings enough, she switches her mind and starts preparing dinner for her family, maintaining a good balance.</p>
<p> I know that there are those who condemn the affair itself, but I believe that it is our role to tell them that at the very least, they should observe the &#8220;line that you have decided not to step over.</p>
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 Active romance agent, infidelity diagnostician, infidelity counselor, and matching appologist who works as a counselor at ANSWERS, a telephone counseling service. Her curriculum series, which drills the know-how and techniques of romance acquired in the field of romance work, is also very popular.

 Shoko Mizusawa

 ＜The number of consultations from married women who are in the midst of a double-marital affair (shitatsuma) has been increasing rapidly. In the first part of this article, we will introduce Ms. Yuka Ito (pseudonym: 38 years old), who has been married for 13 years and is in the midst of such a W affair.

A “shita wife” who received advice from an adultery run-in counselor… and then showed an unexpected appearance.

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