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His voice was so comforting.
Aki fell into an extramarital affair for the third time when she was married for 15 years. 44 years old, it was romantic from the moment she met him.
‘That day at work, one of my men made a big mistake. I was exhausted from making phone calls here and there and going directly to his business partners to apologize. My subordinate’s mistake was my mistake, so I couldn’t get too angry. I invited my subordinate to join me for a light drink on the way home from work and cheerfully encouraged him, saying, “I hope you will change your mind tomorrow,” and we parted ways. Afterwards, I couldn’t bring myself to go home, so I stopped by a bar by myself. I was just passing by and found it to be a quiet and austere place. I knew that getting drunk at a bar like that would be a bad thing, so I asked for a light cocktail.
When the glass was almost empty, the bartender offered me the same drink, saying, “From that customer over there. I looked in his direction and saw a dandy smiling at Aki. It was like something out of a movie, she recalled, and her cheeks loosened. She indicated the vacant seat next to her with her chin, and he slowly walked over and sat down.
‘We spent some time making bland small talk and getting to know each other. It was a lovely time. He handed me his card and said, ‘Call me when you’re ready.” He pulled away after about 30 minutes. I liked that quickness, too. He is used to making women chase him.
He was the same age as her, of medium build, but had a toned body. Most of all, she said, he had a nice voice.
‘I sat next to him at the counter and his voice coming in my ear was pleasant. I held off for a while, but a week later I called him. He said, ‘I’ve been waiting for you. ‘ We went out to dinner that day, and then we went to a hotel because I didn’t want to say goodbye.”
Sleeping and Waking Up
I didn’t want to part with him even more after we left the hotel, but he got a cab and pushed her into it. He laughed at her and told her that she needed to take care of her family, and Aki’s heart was gripped.
“From then on, I couldn’t stop thinking about him whether I am awake or asleep,” she said.” We had great sexual chemistry, and I enjoyed talking to him. He worked in the arts, and he knew a lot about my favorite field of painting. He often invited me to museums, movies, and concerts.”
Aki had decided to spend Saturdays and Sundays with her family, but at that time, her children were already absorbed in their club activities, and she was rarely home on Saturdays. Her husband took care of any parental responsibilities related to club activities, so Aki usually stayed home on Saturdays to do housework or go to the gym and she devoted her time to seeing him.
“I guess that’s what being in love is all about,” she said. “I spent all my time with him. During that time, I didn’t think about my children or work.”
She thought she was fulfilled with a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment from devoting all her energies to love, family, and work. However, three years into their relationship, his wife noticed the relationship and contacted Aki’s husband, and their love affair was quickly discovered.
She said, “It was unfair of her to suddenly contact her husband when she could have just contacted me. At that time, I thought to myself, “I am an independent individual, but I always contact my husband. I felt that even though I was an independent person, my husband always thought of me as an accessory. His wife is also furious because she thinks, ‘My husband is mine,’ right? Husbands and wives are supposed to be independent individuals, even if they are husband and wife.”
“He contacted me immediately. He told me he was sorry for involving me. Sorry is not good enough,” she mumbled.
Don’t you dare meddle in my life.
“My husband wasn’t furious. I said, ‘I’m sorry I got you into this,’ and he said, ‘I’m sad.’ I think it was immoral of me to make my husband sad. But I am living my life. I told him that my husband was very important to me, but I couldn’t turn my back on love. Then my husband said to me as if to throw up, ‘So you’ve had your fill, huh?’ Those words hurt me.”
Some may say that it was selfish of her to be hurt by her husband’s words after having an affair herself. But she loved her husband and children with all her heart. But love is not the same thing. Even her husband could not bind her heart.
She said, “I told my husband, ‘Don’t talk to me about my life. She knew that her husband would be hurt enough by those words. He was a very normal man who thought that adultery was wrong and that it was his parental duty to discipline his body and mind.”
He contacted me and said, “I can’t go out with you anymore. I’m sorry.” She was prepared for this, but she felt it was unreasonable for her love to be cut off by a “third party” in this way. However, she could not do anything about it because he had already said he could no longer go out with her.
I felt that infidelity is like being stabbed in the back by a third party in this way. To me, his wife is just an unrelated third party. I could understand if he changed his mind and decided to stop seeing her, but for his wife to ask him to break off the relationship is unreasonable. When I told my husband about it, he said, ‘Are you an idiot? I guess that’s just how it is in general.’
She giggled as she said this. After that, she changed her mind, saying that she had no choice but to accept that she had been exposed and that she was lucky to have survived. However, it was her husband who could not change his mind.
“He also pointed out the affair in the past,” she said. He said he had suspected me because I had been acting somewhat strange. I insisted that I had done nothing. I told him that it was your misunderstanding. But since then, my husband seemed to be having a hard time. He would look at me, say something to me, and then shut down when I told him it was okay. Then I realized that I was making him unhappy.
It was a year ago that I told my husband that I was divorcing him. Her husband looked relieved. Aki rented a one-room apartment near her home.
I told the children that I was sorry and that I was divorcing him because our relationship of trust had been broken. I think they both knew it was coming. I told them that I was in the neighborhood and would come over if they wanted, and they said, ‘Do whatever you want.’ Before I knew it, the children had grown up. The children helped us move. My oldest son grinned at me and said, ‘Don’t make my dad cry too much.’ When I asked him why you were so tolerant, he replied, ‘Mom has her own life, right? I’ve heard that since I was a little girl, like an octopus in my ears.’ ‘Was I infusing such things into a young child?’ I thought to myself.
She and her children now live in the house with her ex-husband, and the three of them seem to be getting along well, taking care of household chores and other duties. Aki, who has a key to her former home, returns to the house whenever she has time, and sometimes cooks home-cooked meals for the children.
She says, “The best thing for me is that my children have not changed at all. My husband was awkward at first, but gradually he started to talk normally. The other day I went on a date with my ex-husband. He called me out of the blue and said, ‘If you are free this Saturday, would you like to go to a movie?’ He said, “I have a movie I want to see.” He said he had a movie he wanted to see, and when he thought about who he wanted to see it with, it was me. I was a little touched by that. ‘I wanted to hear Aki’s opinions’, he said I don’t know if that was a compliment or not.
Aki seems to be enjoying herself as she says this.
Recently, various types of families have been reported having this kind of set-up. I think it is okay to have a family like this. As long as the people involved are happy with it.
Interview and text： Sanae Kameyama