My husband is raising a child with his adulterous partner (laugh).” A “mendicant wife” tells of her double life with her handsome husband and his true love.

After 10 years of fertility searching, she gave birth to someone else’s child

Have you ever heard of the term “begging for alms”?

Originally, the term referred to the habit of birds such as cuckoos to lay their eggs in other nests and have them raised by other parents. The term has been used in the context of “carrying the child of a loved one and raising it with a financially strong husband.

However, the woman we interviewed this time had a child for a reason outside of this context.

Reiko Hase (37 years old, pseudonym), who recently gave birth to her first child, was supposed to be in a happy mood, but as she held her child in her arms, she smiled and said, “Actually, this child is not his.

I guess the modern expression is ‘mendicant wife. My husband thinks it is his child, but it is 100% not his child. This child is my boyfriend’s.”

Reiko and her husband have been married for 10 years and have never used contraception.

We have been talking about having a child since the day we joined the family, but we have never been able to have a child. My husband wants to have a child, but he refuses to undergo any serious fertility treatment, so we have never been able to find out why we haven’t been able to conceive. I thought we might end up childless for the rest of our lives.”

With a feeling that something was not quite right, Reiko became addicted to matching apps and women-only sex services. All I did was engage in ‘impure heterosexual acts,'” she laughs.

Even if I have sex with my husband, I can’t have children. I want to have children, but I don’t investigate the reason why I can’t. I don’t get divorced. I don’t want a child, but I don’t investigate why I can’t have a child. I just worked and spent my days with my husband, and it was hard for me to look at the pregnancy test every month, which never came back positive, so I think I was trying to escape reality.

She was manipulating her husband by not repeating herself with anyone, but there was only one person she did repeat herself with.

He was the president of a business partner of mine. He is the president of a small company, though. I had met him many times at work-related drinking parties, and one day we had too much to drink and had this kind of relationship. It would have been bad if we had found out about each other because of our personal relationship, so I could say that I felt safe. ……

About a month after we started meeting secretly at the hotel, he made me a proposal.

I had been using contraception because he knew I was married. But his was so big that even if I put a ……3L condom on it, he said it rubbed against me and hurt. He asked me to take the pill so that we could have sex without a condom. I liked having sex with him, and I couldn’t have children with my husband, so I thought, ‘Well, okay,’ and started taking the pills.”

After six months of regular physical contact, he asked me to talk to him.

He was also married and had a child. He was my business partner, but I didn’t realize it because I had no personal contact or interest in him (laughs). I thought it was just for fun, but it turned out to be serious. He said, ‘If you don’t mind being married, I want a serious relationship with you. He and his wife were in a complete friendship marriage and have not been together since they had a child. He said he was open to extramarital affairs and that his wife had a girlfriend.

Reiko accepted this proposal, saying that it would be fair to her position. They became lovers, but the side effects of the pills caused them to quarrel more and more.

She said, “The pills don’t suit my constitution, so I spend more time feeling mentally unstable, and he also has a depressive streak. What makes me mad is that he brings his fights into work. He cancels meetings with our company, and he dominates me by harassing me in small ways. It sucks.”

She stops taking the pill on her own accord.

However, she takes an unexpected action , saying that she still loves him and cannot leave him. She stopped taking the pill.

I wanted to have his child, I wanted to be a parent, and I was tired of working. …… I had many feelings, but most of all I wanted to get pregnant and embarrass him. I had sex with my husband from time to time, so in case we had a child, I wouldn’t be bothered. I was also curious about how he would react if we had a child.　I was also curious about how he would react if we had a child.

Two months after going off the pill, she found out she was pregnant. Her husband was overjoyed, but her boyfriend immediately demanded that she have an abortion.

“He made me call several OB/GYNs right in front of him, saying, ‘I’ll pay for all the abortions. I told him that the cost was too high, that I heard they were fully booked, etc., and told him that I would make it right. I was 15 weeks pregnant.

He apologized in tears , saying, “This is for both of us,” and followed up by sending her a letter filled with messages of love, but it is outrageous that he made Reiko spend hours in line at a toy store to buy a doll that was popular at the time the day before the imaginary scheduled abortion date…. It’s outrageous….

She is a psychopath, isn’t she? When I told him that I hadn’t actually had an abortion, he was furious. He yelled at me, “I’ll never see you again” and “I don’t know you. I was a little sad because somewhere inside of me I was waiting for him to say, ‘I’m so happy.

On the other hand, my husband was very fond of my children even before they were born, saying, “I can’t wait to see them. I was saved by my husband. He was so happy that I wondered why he didn’t doubt me after such a long period of not being able to have a child.　I wondered why he didn’t even suspect it.

I thought it was just going to disappear naturally, but “he would drop me a line every three days and threaten me,” she laughs.

He said, ‘I’m the president of the company at the bend, so I have some assets. He said, ‘No matter how much of a friendship marriage you have, if Yoso has a child, it’s a different story. If my wife finds out about our relationship, and she finds out about the child, she’s like, ‘I think she’s going to ask for alimony, so make sure you pay it. That’s what I’m saying, you pay it.”

But this situation “was to be expected,” Reiko said, and she brushed off his threats and spent her time peacefully with her husband on maternity leave. When she posted a photo of her child born on the due date on Instagram, she received a line from him saying, “I want to go visit you.

I thought, “What kind of windfall?　I thought, but when I specified a day when my husband would definitely not be able to come due to work, he came with my favorite cake. He looked at the child’s face and had an indescribable expression on his face, but touched his cheek, ‘Is that my child? ……'”

Although he did not say anything special to her that day, their relationship was restored naturally. After the birth of her child, she left her child in her husband’s care and enjoys their occasional encounters.

My husband is surprisingly cooperative in taking care of our child, and once a week he takes me out for a visit, telling me to “freshen up” or “go to the hairdresser,”” she said. He takes me out of the house once a week to ‘freshen up’ or ‘go to the hairdresser. He is like a competent babysitter at home (laughs). I meet him at a love hotel when I go out.

I created a back account on Instagram with him, and we exchange direct mails there, then I delete it immediately. I don’t think he would ever find out unless it was something really bad.”

After bathing the child, my husband suddenly asked, “Do you know Mr. A from X company?” Mr. A is the name of Reiko’s boyfriend.

For a moment, the view in front of me became distorted. How did they find out?　I just calmly said, ‘It’s a business partner. I just calmly answered, ‘It’s a business partner,’ and he said that her husband’s company might do business with him in the future, too ……. I was reminded once again that the world is a small place.”

Aren’t you afraid that your husband will find out?　When I asked her if she was afraid that her husband would find out, Reiko replied with a vacant look on her face, “No. Life is a game.

Life is a game. Whenever I’m faced with a problem, I just think, “How can I clear it up? I am interested in what my husband will say if he finds out. But even if I get divorced, I have enough money saved up for the time being, and I have the qualifications, so I can just change jobs and move out of the house.

During the interview, she showed the author a picture of her child and said, “See, he looks just like me, doesn’t he? 　 He and my husband have the same blood type, so they won’t be found out without a DNA test,” Reiko said with a mysterious air of reserve.