<p><strong>ANSWERS&#8221; is a somewhat unusual love counseling center that specializes in sending accurate advice on infidelity, plundering love, reconciliation, and other relationships that are difficult to confide in family and friends.</strong></p>
<p><strong> Its counselor, Shoko Mizusawa, receives consultations on adultery and looting love every day.</strong></p>
<p><strong> This time, we would like to introduce some advice she actually sent to a woman who graduated from a women&#8217;s college and had an affair with a married man who was a year older than her.</strong></p>
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<p> This time, Mayumi Takei (pseudonym: 23 years old) asked us for advice. Mayumi is a single woman working as an accountant in Tokyo. Mayumi, who grew up in an all-girls high school and an all-girls college, has never been in a relationship with a man, and her first boyfriend is a married man who is 12 years older than her.</p>
<p> She met him through a friend who introduced her to him, and on the day they met, he approached her fiercely, and they began dating half-heartedly, as if he was pushing her too hard. They have been dating for about four months, and Mayumi says she has no ill feelings toward him <strong>, saying, &#8220;He teaches me a lot of things I don&#8217;t know</strong>.</p>
<p> Her current problem is that <strong>&#8220;he is my first boyfriend, but all I feel is sadness</strong>. （Is it inevitable because <strong>(the other man) is married</strong>?</p>
<h3> Even the veteran counselor was astonished&#8230;the shocking reason why the affair started.</h3>
<p> ANSWERS also interviews the reason for the relationship and the impression he made when they first met, but what triggered his relationship with Mayumi was <strong>&#8220;I&#8217;m seriously good at</strong> this. <strong>Wanna give it a try?&#8221;</strong> The first thing that triggered a relationship with Mayumi was an unexpectedly direct sexual appeal: &#8220;I&#8217;m really good at this.</p>
<p> It was too direct and most women would raise their eyebrows if they were asked out in this way. However, Mayumi, who had never been in a relationship before, didn&#8217;t know how to handle it, and she was defeated by his pushiness, and they ended up having a sexual relationship.</p>
<p> He must have known immediately that Mayumi was not used to men, and he had his sights set on her for his own pleasure from that time on.</p>
<p> Also, Mayumi&#8217;s lack of experience with this type of men may have led her to believe that being surprised or confused by his comments was the thrill of love.</p>
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<p>As we delved deeper into the interview, the phrase &#8220;I don&#8217;t want you to divorce me. I just don&#8217;t want you to go away,&#8221; spilled out of Mayumi&#8217;s mouth.</p>
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<p> This phrase is often heard in adultery counseling. I don&#8217;t want a divorce, but I want to continue the relationship. So, I want you to tell me how to do that.&#8221; Mayumi&#8217;s phrase <strong>&#8220;don&#8217;t leave</strong> me&#8221; meant <strong>&#8220;don&#8217;t leave me physically</strong>.</p>
<p> I didn&#8217;t quite understand what he meant, so I asked him for more details and he told me that he frequently has drinks at home in an apartment he rents with five other couples, and recently he has been taking Mayumi to those places.</p>
<p> Then, he would kiss other women right in front of Mayumi, or in some cases, he would leave her there and go somewhere with other women.</p>
<p><strong> I don&#8217;t know what I should do after he is gone. I feel so empty.</strong></p>
<p> I was surprised that Mayumi herself was not at all aware of the fact that she should not be worrying about how she should wait.</p>
<p> Mayumi recognized that &#8220;infidelity is painful,&#8221; but the genre of &#8220;painful&#8221; is completely different.</p>
<p> Even if he was single, the current relationship is not a good one. I felt that the problem is that he is in a sense &#8220;convinced&#8221; by tying the lack of affection and sincerity towards Mayumi to the reason that &#8220;he is married&#8221;.</p>
<p> However, we are in the position to advise you on what actions you can take to meet your needs, and we cannot force you to make a choice on your own behalf and say, &#8220;You should not be with that person.</p>
<p> I myself was conflicted as to how I should advise the client on how to get around in the so-called &#8220;gay adultery.</p>
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<p> As a result, what advice did I give to the consultant? The rest of this article will appear in <a href="https://friday.kodansha.co.jp/article/303373">&lt;Why the &#8220;college-educated female office worker&#8217;s view of love&#8221; was broken while being cheated on by a &#8220;too-gay adulterer&#8221; (Part 2)&gt;</a>.</p>
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 She is an active romance agent, infidelity diagnostician, infidelity consultant, and matching appraiser, and works as a counselor at ANSWERS, a telephone consultation service. Her curriculum series, which drills the know-how and techniques of romance acquired in the field of romance work, is also very popular.

 Shoko Mizusawa

 ANSWERS" is a somewhat unusual love consulting service that specializes in sending accurate advice on infidelity, love for looting, reconciliation, and other relationships that are difficult to confide in family and friends. Its counselor, Shoko Mizusawa, receives daily

Please tell me how to wait for him when he is in a room with a woman&#8221;&#8230; I was absolutely shocked at the advice I received at the infidelity run-in.

Please tell me how to wait for him when he is in a room with a woman”… I was absolutely shocked at the advice I received at the infidelity run-in.

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