＜Recently, the number of consultations from &#8220;Sareh-husbands,&#8221; meaning husbands whose wives are having affairs, has been gradually increasing.
 In the <a href="https://friday.kodansha.co.jp/article/296217">first part of this report,</a> we introduced a consultation from a &#8220;sareh-husband&#8221;, Yoshiharu Takahashi (pseudonym: 42 years old), who has been married for 10 years, and what he should check first when he suspects that his wife is having an affair. How on earth did he find out about the affair?
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About three weeks after the initial call, I received another call. I asked Yoshiharu to confirm the following three points.
Whether there are days when the atmosphere of makeup is different from usual. 
・If there is an increase in relatively new underwear. 
The response when I asked her to join me in conjugal relations.
As for makeup, Yoshiharu was not familiar with makeup and said he was not sure. As for underwear, it is unclear how long it has been around, but there seems to be an increase in sexy-looking underwear&#8230;&#8230;. He was surprised and declined the conjugal activity, saying, &#8220;Suddenly what?(laugh )&#8221; He tried twice, but in the end it did not come to pass.
Another thing he noticed was that &#8220;he is no longer angry at things he used to be angry at, and he is in a much better mood every day.
These two things are almost always &#8220;signs of cheating &#8220;. I was convinced that his wife was cheating on him when I heard this response.
If a woman is cheating on her husband, it is a danger signal if she continues to refuse to have physical relations with several men at the same time for various reasons, as many women are reluctant to have physical relations with more than one man at the same time.
Also, &#8220;I am in a good mood because I am no longer angry at things I would have been angry at in the past &#8221; is actually a danger signal. It is difficult to become irritated when your mind is sufficiently occupied with other things and you feel happy.
When I shared my analysis with Yoshiharu, he felt that there was a strong possibility that he was cheating on his wife, so he requested an affair investigation. I wanted to confirm the truth rather than just think about it!&#8221; He wanted to confirm the truth.
He decided on a suspicious day of the week and conducted the investigation &#8230;&#8230;. The result was black. It turned out that the other party was a wife-beater who lived relatively close by and was having what is called a &#8220;double affair.
Mr. Yoshiharu&#8217;s faint hope that his wife would never do such a thing was shattered.
When Mr. Yoshiharu learned the truth, he was shocked, but he took the time to calmly accept the situation.
He could have made a decision to get a divorce at this point, but as for himself, he said , &#8220;No divorce! We advised him on how to get around in the home so that there would be no intention of divorce on his wife&#8217;s part.
We also analyzed that the wife&#8217;s affair was a double affair, that she herself was not willing to break up the family, and that she would not choose to throw everything away, given her personality. We continued to provide mental care for Mr. Yoshiharu and to plan for the future of the family.
Although it may not be obvious to those with happy families, Mr. Yoshiharu decided to admit that his wife was cheating on him for the time being in consideration of the continuity of the family and his wife&#8217;s mental balance. There are ten different solutions to cheating. For this family, this was the best solution.
We ended our advice at this point, but about two months later, we called Mr. Yoshiharu for the first time in a long time to ask him about his recent situation.
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This phone call took us by surprise. We had been so shocked by his wife&#8217;s infidelity, but why on earth would he do this? We asked him why.
 She said, &#8220;My wife is cheating on me, too, and I don&#8217;t mind&#8230;&#8221;
After learning of his wife&#8217;s affair, Mr. Yoshiharu decided not to divorce her and improved his behavior in the home.
He also improved the characteristic behaviors of a saree husband in his own way. He took an interest in his wife, listened to her, expressed his feelings in words, and worked energetically to improve himself. After doing so, the way the people around him looked at Mr. Yoshiharu seemed to change, and he began to receive favors from and have relationships with women in the same company.
Mr. Yoshiharu is now able to be rather naturally kind to his wife because he feels guilty about filling the void in his heart that was not filled at home outside.
As a result, both couples are having an affair, but they have no intention of getting a divorce. It was a surprising end to a marriage that has achieved a balance between husband and wife while having an affair with each other, but even for Mr. Yoshiharu, &#8220;Maybe it is good that we both have a place in our hearts.
In a case like this, if they had consulted friends or family, it would have ended a little harder. Based solely on their request, &#8220;We don&#8217;t want to break up the family,&#8221; as professionals, we came to this conclusion.
As a result, Yoshiharu is very satisfied. In a special kind of relationship such as adultery, it is necessary to give advice that can lead to the ending that the counselor wants, rather than just saying the words that the counselor wants to be said.
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 Active romance agent, infidelity diagnostician, infidelity counselor, and matching appraiser who works as a counselor at ANSWERS, a telephone counseling service. Her curriculum series, which drills the know-how and techniques of romance acquired in the field of romance work, is also very popular.

 Shoko Mizusawa

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